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6 Signs You're Sabotaging Your Own Life and Happiness

Struggling With Sabotaging Your Happiness

6 Signs You're Sabotaging Your Own Life And Happiness

Medically Reviewed by Chelsey Lahr, PMHNP-BC


It's easy to blame others and circumstances for why you aren't successful or happy in life, but the truth is it's your actions that determine these things. Here are six ways you might be sabotaging your own life.


1.  You neglect your health

Good health is vital to your life. If you don't take care of yourself, you're risking numerous consequences. If you are neglecting your health, you may find that you're tired often and carrying more weight than you'd like.

It's time to begin eating well and exercising. If you've been living a sedentary lifestyle for a while, it will be hard to break that habit and get active, but it's not impossible.

Start by going for short walks after dinner. Extend those walks each week. You'll find that you not only improve your energy levels, but your mood as well.

If you haven't had a checkup in a few years, make sure you schedule that. By improving your health you will be happier and more motivation to go after your goals.


2. You stay in a job that makes you unhappy

You have to work, but you don't have to stay at a job that doesn't fulfill you forever. If you're unhappy at your job, use your free time to look for a new job.

It's unlikely the perfect job will fall into your lap. If you want to further your education, look into night or weekend courses that fit into your schedule.

Never quit a job until you have another one to take it's place, but don't let your current job make you so complacent that you stop looking for something better. You can be grateful to have a job without feeling obligated to stay in it forever.


3.  You keep toxic people in your life

If you surround yourself with people who whine, complain, gossip, and try to crush your dreams, you won't have a happy and successful life. You will be drained of energy and your good mood will be ruined.

You've probably experienced this before. Someone will text you or call you and you immediately feel anxious or in a bad mood. This is a clear sign that the person is toxic in your life.

You cannot feel guilty about removing these people from your life. By doing so you will no longer have the stress they bring in your life. You will also have space to bring happier, more optimistic people into your life.


4.  You don't experience anything new

Life can become busy and routine, but that's exactly why you should make sure you take time to get out and explore the world around you. When was the last time you tried something new?

You don't have to travel to do and see new things. You'd be surprised how many things there are close to home you haven't yet seen. You can take day trips or weekends trips if you can't afford to travel far from home. If you've never eaten Vietnamese food, try it. If you've never been on a boat, figure out a way to get yourself on one.

There is always something new to try or see. By staying in your comfort zone you are holding yourself back from all that life has to offer you. If you don't leave your comfort zone, you might not see solutions to problems you need.


5.  You procrastinate

If you procrastinate in any area of your life, you are sabotaging yourself. You have the ability to improve your life now. You can either choose to take it or not.

If you want to be healthier, decide that you will eat something healthy for your next snack or meal. If you want to start a business, take one step every day that will get you closer to doing that.

There is nothing you from stopping from starting today except your decision to put it off until tomorrow, the new year, or your birthday.


6.  You try to make everyone else happy

If you spend your life trying to make other people happy, this is a form of self-sabotage. It's important that you make yourself happy before you worry about if someone else is happy.

If you are dating someone new and they don't like your running schedule because it takes you away from texting them or seeing them when it suits them, you should not change your schedule or stop running completely.

Now and then compromise is needed from both parties, but you should never stop doing something you love to accommodate someone else.

You can't successfully make everyone else happy without sacrificing your own happiness. We are all responsible for how we feel.


It is possible to sabotage your own life. It is easier to blame others at times, but unless you admit to what you're doing to hold yourself back, you won't be able to make the necessary changes.

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